Focus

fo·cus

noun
1.
the center of interest or activity.
"this generation has made the environment a focus of attention"
2.
the state or quality of having or producing clear visual definition.
"his face is rather out of focus"

verb
1.
(of a person or their eyes) adapt to the prevailing level of light and become able to see clearly.
"try to focus on a stationary object"
2.
pay particular attention to.
"the study will focus on a number of areas in Wales"

Focus.

Do you have it? Did you have it? Have you lost it? Do you feel more focused? Refocused? Wish you had it?


Life has changed drastically for many.

Businesses are closed – and the ones that will soon reopen are going to look and feel so different. Facial masks, barriers, 6ft rules, symptom checks…

Schools are remaining closed. Distance learning for everyone. School in the upcoming Fall months is just completely up in the air.

Can’t get your hair or nails done. Who knows when that will come back?

No gatherings of more than 10 people…


I have lost my focus on self-care.

I spend full days in pajamas, hair unbrushed and nails un-kept.

When my pajamas and leggings are dirty, I wear my husband’s boxers as pants.

I’m spending WAY more time at home, so laundry SHOULD be getting done. And it does – just slowly.

I have to convince myself that it’s worth my effort to wake up in the morning and put on actual pants. I have hardly put on makeup in weeks because it just feels silly to waste it when I’m not leaving the house and my kids don’t care what I look like, as long as I’m still bringing them snacks.

Admittedly, I feel a lot better when I “make myself pretty.”  It should really be a no-brainer – to get out of bed, do some grooming, feel good, and conquer the day.  But for some reason, that I just cannot pinpoint, it’s not as easy as it should be.


School is the source of an enormous amount of structure and stability. That shit is just gone.

You would think not having to wake up early and rush out the door every day would be a good change for the kids – but not mine. I mean – I freaking love it. Getting three kids in the car by 8:50am was my least favorite thing about school days. But my kiddos – that structure was routine. It was normal. It was much more important than I realized.

I have tried to create a New Normal for them.

And I think we are doing alright.

But what they really lack right now, I can’t give them. And that’s time with their friends and family. REAL time with them. IN-PERSON time with them.

Now, their focus on self-care is suffering as mine is.

Little Guy’s potty training has regressed.

My daughter hates wearing pants and brushing her teeth.

My oldest only puts on clothes when we play outside.

I KNOW that it’s my job to get them more on top of these things – to teach them.  To set examples.  But, as I said – I’m struggling a little bit here too.


As a whole, our family has pretty damn successfully refocused a lot of attention on one another. We play games and watch movies together. We play outside together. We do yard work together. All 5 of us. As weather gets nicer, backyard camp fires are becoming a weekend ritual.

Hubs and I have refocused a lot on each other.  We spend a lot more alone time together every evening and we absolutely appreciate that time a lot more in the recent months. 


I have talked a lot about finding our New Normal.

Starting our New Normal.

I suppose the things we have lost focus on should really be a part of that big picture.

SO…

Word of the day:  self-care.

That’s where we will start today.


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